Autism: Positively Speaking

There are days, many days, in fact where I just want to lock myself in the bathroom and cry. I do get frustrated with my kids, I do yell at them, some days I have the patience of a gnat. But they are such sweet kids. Really they are.

There have been many times I have cried out and been so angry with God. But He has so kindly and plainly told me I can do this.

I can.

I know I can.

Like he says. He won't give me anything He and I can't handle together. What a relief that is. If He believes in me who am I to tell Him that He is wrong!

God taught me patience and yes I do slip sometimes but He also taught me to look at my kids in a positive way. When  I get frustrated by good behaviors gone amuck. I give positive thinking a shot. I think of all the things that my children are good at and what they do that makes me smile.

Little Monkey is so sweet and tries his best to be helpful. He loves to help  me clean. He picks up trash around the house and throws it away. He loves to vacuum. When he tells me he loves me my heart just melts.  When he smiles his eyes dance.

This little guy loves his power tools. He has to work along side daddy and is so helpful. I'm amazed at three that he knows the names of most tools. He's come such a long way in life. And been through way more than any normal three year old has. I'm so proud of him. 

Baby Girl is my thoughtful girl. She is always thinking of others. In fact she called her Anya (grandma) and left her a message when she heard her Grandma was having a bad day. She is always making cards for people for every occasion. She is our Cheerleader. She encourages her brothers and is such a wonderful big sister to them. I couldn't ask for anything more.

   She is working so hard in school. I know it's very difficult for her to understand and takes her more time that most kids. But I'm so proud of her for trying so hard. She makes me proud to be her mommy.

Tiger hasn't shown any signs of disabilities but as a toddler he can be a handful sometimes. But he's such a cutie. I love to watch him dance. He's a love bug. They all are but he's a momma's boy. His giggles are infectious and always warrant a smile from me.  I think maybe someday he will be an adventure seeker. He loves to climb and will even jump in the pool on his own (with a life jacket of course). I find him in all kind of places and wonder sometimes how in the world he did that. But that's just him. It makes me laugh.

Thinking of all the positive qualities and what they are good at really calms my spirit. Lots of people (not all) think of Autism, ADD, ADHD, ODD, etc are negative disabilities. But I have learned over the years to think of them as a different way of understanding the world around you. Like Sally Meyer says in her poem, "Autism is not the end of the world, but the beginning of a new one. "

Our Children are a gift that God entrusted us with. They weren't a mistake. They are unique just the way He wanted them to be. So my bloggy friend, I encourage you when you feel frustrated, angry, and sad. Think of the positive things you love about your kids, the things they have accomplished. They are doing the best they can. We just need to learn to accept that. 

 

Tiffanie